The more I love you, the more I feel you inside me, the more I know I can’t lose you. I have come to realize recently that the more I love you, the less I want to see you. It’s strange, isn’t it? I can’t love you like I used to. In fact, since I made this choice, as you may have noticed, everything has gone mad!
The choice of unconditional love is a radical one, with no half measures. If I choose, instead, to be driven by unconditional love, my love for you will have no end, I will give everything for you, but this love will also be directed towards all others. If I choose to be driven by conditional love, desire, attachment, then I love only you, but my love is fragile because it depends on a whole bunch of conditions that could change. And if my love for you no longer depends on you, then I love, at the same time, any other person, as deeply. And that’s really cool.Īs you may have guessed, if I love you unconditionally, without any conditions, then my love for you no longer depends on you. This is a nice feature of unconditional love: whereas desire, attraction, attachment, come with a sense of separation, distance, absence unconditional love comes with a sense of obviousness that we are never separated. I don’t have to do anything, that’s how it is. I feel merged with you as if we were the same thing, and then I know that this is love.
When I focus on my chest, I sometimes feel a sense of peace and wholeness, a sense of obviousness and eternity. I know it’s just passing through, and I know my love for you is much more than that. When the desire, frantic, takes control of my body, I watch it have fun, and I laugh. I discovered that sometimes there is in me what I now call love, which is unconditional and eternal, and sometimes there is in me what I used to call love, but now call desire, attraction, attachment. The good surprise is that, by observing myself, I have come to see that I don’t have to do anything special to love you in this way. Logically, no spatial or temporal condition should be able to prevent my unconditional love for you. When I thought about it, I realized that if I wanted to love you unconditionally, I would have to love you even when you were far away, even on the day we were separated, even on the day you loved someone else, even on the day I died. To really love is to love without conditions, isn’t it? And I want to love you truly, like a child. I was seduced by this love because it seemed obvious to me. One day, I discovered a really chic concept, the concept of unconditional love. Because, since I don’t have to try to improve anything in you, I must say that I save a lot of time! I have much more time to do nothing, and also to truly love you. I found this rather convenient, by the way. To accept you, as you are now, is to really love you, isn’t it? That is, I love you without wanting you to be a little more like this, or like that. In short, I wanted to tell you that I love you. It’s a declaration of unconditional love. And to share with you a definition of unconditional love in my words.
I was so excited about this love that I wanted to write you a letter, to explain my thoughts in more detail. To love the other unconditionally is also to love everyone, and it is also to love yourself, truly. So your love for him no longer depends on him! Your love for her no longer depends on her!īut even worse, your love, if it is unconditional, necessarily becomes directed towards everyone, without conditions. Unconditional love, that curious phenomenon, reveals unexpected surprises: if you love unconditionally, your love does not depend on the loved one because it does not depend on anything. Unconditional love is not the desire, the attraction, or the attachment, even though all these can exist at the same time. It is loving the other without conditions, like a child. Unconditional love is loving the other person as she or he is.
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